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Fear of failure

“I can’t start doing anything, because I’m afraid that it won’t work, and in general I doubt the positive results of my plans.” Very often, this is what people think before giving up on a new opportunity and forever depriving themselves of the chance for a new and their desired way of life. Psychologists assure that such fears may not only be overcome, but also their destructive power can be turned to creation. People have two main ways of thinking at moments when they are faced with problems and challenges in life or with inevitable obstacles. The "fixed" way of thinking causes  in us a fear of making mistakes and a possible fiasco, painting a picture of a failure as of an inevitable and fatal ending after which there will be no return to the usual calm however a poor life. People who have this prevailing view perceive possible failures as personal shame and pain from such humiliation. It is just that their highly developed right brain hemisphere sends them all kinds of pain signals due to an increase in the level of cortisol, which is the stress hormone inherent for these kinds of situations. Shame, fear, anger, disgust and sadness are the main negative emotions that make people keenly want to avoid feeling them. The brain will do everything so that you do not feel them, and it seems to you that the right decision will help you avoid failures. That is - giving up the opportunity. A different type of thinking – the "growing" thinking causes people another type of emotion of the five main negative emotions – and that is fear. There is also a striving to avoid bad feelings. The point is that a person is not afraid of failures, but of the loss of an opportunity.  And, the possibility of a failure in an upcoming business is a positive factor, causing excitement, more pleasant emotions than in the case when the person would not even try doing something.  In neuroscience, arousal refers to the spectrum of emotions of "attachment". There is also joy, love, trust and pleasant surprises in there. Those who are afraid not to try constantly feel euphoric about possible risks and their brains release the hormone oxytocin responsible for elevated feelings. Such people will even be ashamed when they do nothing and take no action to achieve their goals. If you have the "fixed" mindset, it is not difficult to change it to the "growing" mindset.  Such ability of our brain as neuroplasticity is designed to alter and rewrite human responses to emerging stress and experiences. Changes in the point of view, accepting the pain of loss, the concept of “time heals” – they are all merits of neuroplasticity. Rebuilding the neural connections in your brain takes time and practice.  It is necessary to consciously and subconsciously focus on what you want to change and to begin with in your behavior, and then to take possible measures to make that happen.  One of the great people said that in order to achieve victories over oneself and success in undertakings, a person must do something every day that scares them. By forcing yourself to act against your brain's signals you will change your ideas about what is scary and what causes insecurity, and what is interesting and attractive to you. Of course, you should not set up such experiments in absolutely risky situations as it is better to start with simple everyday changes.  All we need is to consciously face our fears and not retreat - then, within a few months, we will be able to reprogram our thinking into the type of thinking we need."

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